Ladies, need a little help with your dating game? These 10 books will set you on the right path. From finding out what makes men tick to becoming irresistible, it’s all here …the Best Dating Books for Women.
Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment
According to this book, the key to finding a mate is understanding men. Author, comedian and talk show personality Steve Harvey wants to empower you, and he’s using his credentials as a popular radio call-in talk show host on dating to do that.
His advice boils down to stating the need for women to understand the games that men play…and they do play games, according to Mr. Harvey. It’s all a game for him, which is demonstrated by his frequent use of the word “playbook” to describe this book.
Mr. Harvey uses lots of personal examples to illustrate how men think. This, combined with his insights on what women want garnered from his talk show years, actually wind up sounding sort of wise.
It must be true what they say: comedians are funny because deep down they really understand human nature.
Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl – A Woman’s Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship
Seems that being a comedian and hosting a radio show provide good material for writing a dating book- this too is written by a comedian who hosted a radio show. This time it’s a woman, and her name is Sherry Argov.Her main point is that women are too nice. Her words are written with a certain kind of authority that make it seem she really might be onto something. What woman couldn’t use a dose of self-empowerment when it comes to dating?
Her view is controversial, perhaps in some ways falling in direct opposition to fellow comedian-talk show-host Steve Harvey. Naturally, her approach is self-directed, while his is more about understanding the opposite sex. Read this one just for the stand-out strength of the message and the controversial view that in a relationship, YOU come first. Men hate this book!
The Power of the Pussy: Get What You Want From Men: Love, Respect, Commitment and More!
Kara King has clearly gone yet a third route on her journey to dating success: highlighting the “magical” powers of being a woman, you can apparently transform yourself into a “man-magnet”.Like Steve Harvey, she sees dating as a “game” and her book is “playbook” for winning that game. She tells women they can manipulate men into becoming the man they want to date…inspiring him to be good by working their womanly magic on them.
The writing is written to keep you turning the pages, in a “wait ’til you see what’s next!” kind of style. Wouldn’t be our first choice for book of the year, but it does make for an interesting read.
The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman’s Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible
Author and doctor Ali Binazir MD hit the nail on the head for many women. His book emphasizes bringing out the feminine side of ourselves, which society apparently keeps muffled.His credentials are impressive, and he takes a personal development/self-empowering approach to dating in a clinical sense. This boils down to “fix yourself and you’ll date better men”. You’ll love this one if you believe in being authentic in a relationship.
All the Rules: Time-tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right
The classic dating guide, this is both “Rules” books rolled into one. Essentially a guide to successfully playing hard to get, these Rules serve as the benchmark of womanly advice for the modern dating scene.Other dating books bounce their theories off these two classic books, so reading this all-in-one volume will serve you in more ways than one.
It’s well written, although perhaps a bit tailored to 90’s women who grew up under the heavy wing of hard-core feminism…in other words, they needed this sort of advice. As a classic, this is worth checking out.
Straight Talk, No Chaser: How to Find, Keep, and Understand a Man
Steve Harvey is at it again, this time with more detailed tips and specific advice that’s actionable and practical. Aimed at women who make bad choices in men, this is a no-nonsense, practical guide to what’s wrong with some men, and why.
Written in Mr. Harvey’s direct, sightly ego-centric style, many find this book refreshing and informative.
Are You the One for Me?: Knowing Who’s Right and Avoiding Who’s Wrong
Author Barbara De Angelis PhD approaches dating as a self-exploratory exercise, where past relationship mistakes are analyzed in order to prevent future mistakes.
The book is written in an easy, flowing style. Lots of easily-actionable advice is given, with much introspection which comes in handy no matter where you are in life. The only caveat is, the book pushes you into making list of non-negotiables, which is currently falling out of favor in the dating world. Worth the read anyway!
Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship
If the “Mars & Venus” analogy sounds familiar, it’s because John Gray, author of this book, wrote the original Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus.
Based on the same principle, that men and women are wired differently, this book focuses on the dating stage of a relationship…similar to The Rules, mentioned above.
Written with a helpful dose of psychology to explain the rules of dating, this book offers plenty of insight on the different motivations of men and women when it comes to dating and what they mean for you.
Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough
Definitely a standout among dating books, this one, written by Lori Gottlieb, focuses on the supposedly unrealistic expectations young women have for men. The title, therefore, is misleading…it’s not that men are sub-standard, it’s that women’s expectations are too high.
The premise is original and controversial enough and the writing style is clever enough that this book makes our list of must-reads …if simply for a different perspective.
How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved
Finally, some very targeted advice for women who can’t stop falling for men who are all wrong for them. If you have a history of this, then Sandra L. Brown’s book can help open your eyes to what keeps happening with your poor choices.
Written from the perspective of a domestic violence counselor, the book is advised by years’ worth of conversations with women who made terrible choices in their relationships. It’s easy to understand, full of good advice, and extremely helpful for all women, not just the ones who’ve had nothing but poor relationships.